How the NFL can stop abuse AND keep its players on the field

A young fan wears an Adrian Peterson jersey.  [Photo: Ann Heisenfelt/AP]
A young fan wears an Adrian Peterson jersey. [Photo: Ann Heisenfelt/AP]


Many people are happy that the Vikings kicked Adrian Peterson off the team and that Ray Rice can no longer play for the Ravens. Their off-field violence has cascaded into harm and loss for everyone involved – spouses, children, team, league and fans — all because of the consequences of their childhood trauma. And the only way the NFL can stop further abuse, harm and loss is…well…to deal with its players’ childhood trauma.

The severe and toxic stresses in Peterson’s past – or what we in the trauma-informed community count on a scale from one to 10 as adverse childhood experiences or ACEs – aren’t minor. As a child, he lost his father to prison, suffered through his parents’ divorce, saw his brother killed by a drunk driver, and was beaten by his stepfather. Repeating the pattern, he whipped his own four-year-old son with a switch so harshly that he raised welts on the child’s body. And if Peterson is convicted and goes to prison, his son can add another ACE to his trauma-filled life.

Peterson and Rice are two of millions of child and spouse abusers who love their families and can learn from their mistakes, if provided with help early enough. The average child abuser or spouse abuser isn’t dirty, disheveled, reeking of alcohol or stoned on meth. Child and spouse abusers are corporate CEOs, ministers, priests, actors, business owners, teachers, truck drivers, physicians, nurses, basketball heroes, journalists, computer programmers, and your next-door neighbors.

They’re dads and moms who have a hard time controlling their emotions when they’re under stress because they themselves were abused. Nobody helped them when they were kids and nobody’s helping them as adults.

Plain and simple, childhood trauma is the nation’s No. 1 public health problem. The CDC’s Adverse Childhood Experiences Study (ACE Study) – the largest public health study you never heard of — shows that childhood trauma is very, very common. (ACE surveys in 22 states echo the results.) And this childhood adversity causes violence, including family violence, as well as the adult onset of chronic disease and mental illness.

By learning about the science of childhood adversity, and following the lead of many other organizations that are becoming trauma-informed, the NFL could have players whose families are happier and healthier, it could have better players (more focused, less stressed), and it might never have to deal with a Ray Rice or Adrian Peterson situation again.

The NFL has 1,696 players. Of those 1,696 players, probably two-thirds – 1,119 young men – have experienced one type of serious childhood trauma. And it’s likely that 22 percent – about 370 players – have suffered three or more types of adverse childhood experiences. And it’s causing some of them to beat their girlfriends, spouses and kids.

This is based on the ACE Study’s findings that about two-thirds of U.S. adults – that’s approximately 150 million people — have experienced at least one of the 10 types of childhood trauma that were measured. These include five personal types – physical, sexual and verbal abuse, and physical and emotional neglect. And five family dysfunctions: a family member in prison, depressed or mentally ill, or who abuses alcohol or other drugs; losing a parent to divorce or separation, and witnessing a mother being abused. Of course there are other types of childhood trauma, such as bullying, witnessing violence outside the home, and watching a sibling being abused, but the ACE Study measured only 10 types.

About 44 million adults in the U.S. have experienced at least three or more types. The higher the number, the higher the risk of disease and violence. Got an ACE score of 4? Your risk of heart disease increases 200%. Your risk of suicide increases 1200%.

The effects of ACEs on family violence are especially troubling. Men who experienced physical abuse when they were kids – that means a parent or other adult who often or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or threw something at them, or ever hit them so hard that they had marks or were injured – are twice as likely to assault their spouses or girlfriends. (The ACE Study was done on 17,000 people, most of whom are white, middle- and upper-middle class, college educated, all with jobs and great health care.)

RicejerseyMen who experienced physical abuse, sexual abuse AND witnessed their mother being abused, are nearly four times more likely to batter women as those who didn’t experience those traumas. Women who were physically abused, sexually abused and saw their mothers being abused are three-and-a-half times more likely to become victims of family violence. (Based on the ACE Study, 16% of men and 25% of women experienced sexual abuse before the age of 18.)

People who have high ACE scores, and haven’t had much resilience in their past or haven’t integrated resilience practices into their lives, don’t handle additional stress well. Peterson grew up with the belief that he would not have made it to the NFL without regular beatings. But research clearly shows that children thrive in a supportive, caring environment, one without threats or punishment.

In his recent press conference NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell said, “Domestic violence, including child abuse, sexual assault, irresponsible ownership or handling of firearms, the illegal use of alcohol or drugs – these activities must be condemned and stopped, through education and discipline.”

Education is a start, but it won’t go the distance. (If education worked, everyone would be slim, nobody would smoke, and nobody would beat a kid or spouse.)

Discipline usually comes too late and causes further harm.

The many other organizations that have been successful in changing behavior start by simply not traumatizing already traumatized people. They move away from shaming, blaming and punishing, and instead intervene early with understanding, they nurture healthier behavior and they implement solution-oriented and resilience-building practices.

Using this approach, an alternative high school in Walla Walla, WA, that implemented trauma-informed practices saw its suspensions drop 90% and its expulsions plunge to zero while kids’ grades, attendance and graduation rates went up. A program integrated into several family courts resulted in parents and caregivers changing their behavior so that 99 percent of infants and toddlers in the program suffered no further abuse.

So, what would a trauma-informed NFL look like?

First, the NFL could recognize that childhood trauma is an epidemic, that it affects most people in the U.S. That it’s likely that the same percentage of NFL team members – and staff — have as many ACEs as the rest of the population.

And then, the NFL could implement approaches similar to other organizations that are trauma-informed:

  1. Educate players and staff about the science of childhood adversity and resilience. This includes learning about how common trauma is, how the toxic stress of childhood trauma harms kids’ brains and gets embedded in their bodies so that chronic disease appears decades later, how it can be passed from one generation to the next, and what the research shows about how to heal the damage.
  2. Require all players – as well as the approximately 700 people on the coaching staff, the 6,400 front-office staff in the league’s 32 teams, plus another 1,858 people who work for the NFL itself – to assess their ACE scores as well as their resilience scores.
  3. Put in place a policy of early intervention. This means identifying early warning signs – a player losing his temper too easily, getting drunk, getting drunk and fighting, harassing other players, driving drunk, abusing other drugs. At the first hint of trouble on or off the field, provide wrap-around services – including counseling for the player and his family members.
  4. Integrate into daily football practice what interpersonal neurobiology expert and author Dan Siegel calls brain hygiene, which he says is as important as dental hygiene. Just as people brush their teeth twice a day, teach all staff – front office, coaching staff, and players to do daily mindfulness practices. Those practices have been shown to increase brain and body health, and to help people regulate their emotions.

So, how might this work in practice? Adrian Peterson, who beat his child with a switch until he was bloody and bruised, was arrested in 2009 for driving 109 mph in a 55 mph zone. In 2012, he was jailed for a night after he resisted arrest in a fight with police at a nightclub.

In 2009, a trauma-informed Vikings organization might have sat down with Peterson in 2009 and asked: “What happened to you? Were you angry about something?” rather than writing the incident off as a boys-will-be-boys event.

In 2012, they might have ramped up the intervention with more help plus a consequence, such as sitting out a game. If they had taken this approach and implemented all the practices above, Peterson might still be playing in this week’s game. His photo might still be on the main billboard at the Vikings’ stadium. He still might be a hero to kids.







  1. Jane Ellen, Thank you for this excellent article. I agree with you 100%!! While abuse must be addressed by the courts and other systems to keep children safe and hold offenders accountable, there is no end to the violence without trauma-informed care throughout systems. I so appreciate your words.


  2. Heavy hitting! (No pun intended — and listen to that deeply-ingrained metaphor). So glad you weighed in on this Jane! Of the million words of chatter, drama, and money being made with the media processing (battering?) this topic, finally something that makes sense and with a TRULY real solution, both for Adrian Peterson and society at large. THANK YOU!!


  3. Thank you for this article Jane. In his book Excellent Sheep, William Deresiewicz states, “The system isn’t working anymore, no matter how just or good or inevitable it seems to those it flatters and benefits. It has lost its authority. It has lost its legitimacy. It is time to imagine what a different society would look like, and to gather the courage to get there.” As a man I am honored to know you as you are a compassionate and empathetic steward/leader, helping to guide us down a new path. It is clear that zero tolerance, discipline and punishment have not and do not work. After listening to all the pundits and supposed experts these last few weeks it is also clear that there are people out there who are stuck and need to be challenged to see a new way. In fact for our society to survive, for our children to have a healthy future, we are going to have to find the courage to challenge roles, identities, and egos of those who assume to know what is best? Thank you again for your courage and your voice and showing us the way.


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